Sunday, January 27, 2008

Back to the beginning!

"Vesinni said, to go back to the beginning, so, here I am back at the beginning." Domingo Montoya. Princess Bride.

Not the more famous of lines from one of the best movies ever, but I thought if it as I read Danielle Bean's latest article Feel the Music at Inside Catholic. She tells the story of her and her future husbands meeting in the 80's as the memory was brought back by music he played for her, pointing out to their 8 children that the song was for her. It was precious.
It was also vaguely reminiscent of my young romance with the man who would be my husband. We weren't in school - I was trying out my first bikini at Look Park Pool in Northampton. It doesn't exist anymore and the locals who called it Hamp are rapidly being replaced by the avante guarde community of the day who call it NoHo.
We were only 13--- the main reason behind making my children wait till they are 16 to date. Oh I'm not naive. I know they'll like other kids and be VERY interested. But at 13 it is so important to really build the best friend relationship and explore your dreams and who this new person you are becoming really is. I also chose not to ask them to court or wait till 18. In our neighborhood, in our culture, it would certainly have meant only that they would be secret with me. I can't help if I'm not trusted.
One of my sisters was able to move close to a Catholic Covenant Community that all has the waiting rule. It works for them become they are realistic about filling the needs of their young people, keeping them busy and engaged in positive activities, build their friendships and give them layers of trusted adults to talk with about their problems. Parents have back up.
Has my solution worked? Can't tell you. I know my son at college enjoyed the first semester of freedom a little too much. He sortof understands that but he's still young. My daughter waited till 16 very begrudgingly. then dove in head first. I think if they'd waited longer they may have found real love. Unfortunately immaturity won out. Now she is scary in who she finds interesting and I'm concerned for her. Until she moves past living in fear she will not make good decisions.

But then I go back to the beginning, my sweets, who knew immediately that someday we'd marry. No matter how hard we argued over songs like Billy Joel's Only the Good Die Young or his rotten friends, or his sacrilegious attitude. Because we grew, matured, most important we allowed each other to grow, encouraged it and enjoyed it when it could have made us fearful.
Like Danielle and her husband we found our selves saying Yes, to God. Over and Over.
to:
Veronica
Jeff
Melissa
David
Sarah
Matthias
Marie
Zoe
and Leslie.
2 in heaven and the rest here on earth having to sin along side mom and dad, but happy, and happy to see their beginning.

Thursday, January 24, 2008

Update: Flu

1. I finished the newsletter. Yeah!
2. Hubby does not have pnuemonia. Praise God!
3. Teen inisted on going to and staying at school, oh well.
4. I've used up a jar of Clorox Disinfecting Wipes, a canister of Lysol Spray, Cans and cans of soup, 2 boxes of popsicles, 2 boxes of sherbert, 3 2L ginger Ale, a bottle of All Detergent etc.
5. Yes its catching up with me. Thanks for the prayers!

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

We have the flu.

Did I mention taht this week? Yep onMLK day the kids followed dad's example and started dropping like flies. I don't have time to be sick. So I'm procrastinating at writing the newsletter, at making a call to UMass and at studing my new book A Mother's Rule of Life Holly Pierlot.

PS Happy Birthday to the young man the baby calls my 'big son' and who made me proud of the comment about Faith on his Facebook....now if his picture could be less.....goofy.

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

HT to Ester who tagged everyone!

From What Privileges Do You Have?,
based on an exercise about class and privilege developed by Will Barratt, Meagan Cahill, Angie Carlen, Minnette Huck, Drew Lurker, Stacy Ploskonka at Illinois State University. If you participate in this blog game, they ask that you PLEASE acknowledge their copyright.
Bold the true statements.
1. Father went to college
2. Father finished college
3. Mother went to college(About when I got married)
4. Mother finished college
5. Have any relative who is an attorney, physician, or professor
6. Were the same or higher class than your high school teachers.
7. Had more than 50 books in your childhood home.
8. Had more than 500 books in your childhood home.
9. Were read children's books by a parent
10. Had lessons of any kind before you turned 18
11. Had more than two kinds of lessons before you turned 18
12. The people in the media who dress and talk like me are portrayed positively
13. Had a credit card with your name on it before you turned 18
14. Your parents (or a trust) paid for the majority of your college costs
15. Your parents (or a trust) paid for all of your college costs
16. Went to a private high school
17. Went to summer camp
18. Had a private tutor before you turned 18
19. Family vacations involved staying at hotels
20. Your clothing was all bought new before you turned 18
21. Your parents bought you a car that was not a hand-me-down from them
22. There was original art in your house when you were a child [kid's work is original! and my mother is an artist- Art For The Journey]
23. You and your family lived in a single-family house
24. Your parent(s) owned their own house or apartment before you left home
25. You had your own room as a child ( but only for a few years)
26. You had a phone in your room before you turned 18
27. Participated in a SAT/ACT prep course
28. Had your own TV in your room in high school
29. Owned a mutual fund or IRA in high school or college
30. Flew anywhere on a commercial airline before you turned 16
31. Went on a cruise with your family
32. Went on more than one cruise with your family
33. Your parents took you to museums and art galleries as you grew up
34. You were unaware of how much heating bills were for your family

I tag everyone who reads this because it is a relatively new meme...to me anyway.

Friday, January 18, 2008

Next Bible Study

My friend Cheryl at My Thoughtful Spot has lovely things to say about our Bible study and the link for the book we will use right here.

Thanks, Cheryl! I just placed my order.

Per Danielle

Please pray for the entire Pilch family, Jonathan especially, and as Mom requests, for all suffering with Leukemia.

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Well its Unofficial.

I went up to the community college for my 'unofficial' copy of my transcript. My meeting at the State college is this afternoon. Its not bad. I was a solid B student. (Really thought it was an A in Inorganic Chemistry) My husband, who I was engaged to at the time, reminds me that we were a little distracted back then. Overall I put in 57 GPA hours, 192.5 Quality GPA Points (I don't know what they are either.) and graduated with a 3.377 Assc. in Science/Retail Management with a Career Concentration.
and Honors! I'd forgotten that part!


Now I just need to decide what to do with it.

Friday, January 11, 2008

I'm Thinking wordlessly.

This week I've followed the 'comments' on Danielle Bean's Blog and Dr. Gregory Popcak at Heart, Mind & Strength (not the easiest blog set up to follow-fair warning.)

I can't help feeling like I'm listening to people argue that, 'the sky is blue' only have someone argue back that, 'no, its blue.'
For the record I studied NFP twice and was exposed to the Attachment Parenting philosophy but did not study it in depth. I have no desire to get into the debate any more than the very brief comments I gave on Danielle's blog, partly:

"Danielle I think your response was very helpful. Most of the world has no access to to this kind of information. Parents must use their God given ability to discern what they should do. For the woman, the 'heart of the home' it really is easiest to describe the way I hear God as a feeling. Men, at least my husband, do not have the same way of relating to God. I can't always put into words for my husband exactly what we should do different but I certainly 'feel' when things aren't right. He trusts that feeling and brings it to prayer. Head and Heart together usually lead us in the right direction. "

It was back on Star Trek, Yes dear I was awake, that the alien in Spock's body comments on this strange thing we depend on 'language' without really being its master. How easily we upset each other with our words when the intent was really to share the enlightenment we've been Blessed with by God. Or we just hope to be heard, understood, somehow to be less alone within our mind.

Maybe that's why so many of us Blog and read blogs; to somehow figure out and Master this thing called language and use it to truly connect to someone. At yet we can never estimate how someone vastly different will react to our choice of words. How they will hear and understand them. We need to know not just what we want to say, but also our motivation and that of the listener. The wider the audience the less we can know.

Let's ponder this all in our hearts with Our Lady. Let's trust that the only one we really need to communicate with is the One who already knows us. Wordlessly.

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Epiphany attacks on Catholics

From David:

The Catholic Church in Iraq has been the target of several bombing campaigns by terrorists who are trying to drive Catholics from the country. Yesterday, a coordinated attack of car bombs were targetted at the Church of St. George in Baghdad, a Chaldean convent and a Melkite church near Baghdad, another Chaldean church and an orphanage in Mosul, and a Dominican convent in Mosul.By the grace of God, NOBODY was killed.

sin Edited for clarification

http://www.catholicculture.org/library/view.cfm?recnum=7518
Interesting article about the Seven Steps involved in Sin- and when you are losing or weakening your conscience. We all know we need to work to properly form our conscience. We often don't realize that we can undo that work. The writer refers to the Fathers of the Church and certainly helps in self evaluation. Where I am I having the biggest problem with sin in my life.

Monday, January 7, 2008

Jane Erye

I finally know the story of Jane Erye. No didn't read it, not even in High School. I watched Masterpiece Theater. 2 Sundays in a row. Really. Of course last week I went to bed early and watched in my room. This week Jeff went to bed and I had the big TV. My younger son walked in during the marraige proposal so I almost missed it. Later my older son came home took one looke and announced, "That can't be good." Off he went to the computer. My Melissa however watched the end with me. She had read it in school and didn't mind joining me.
It really was a lovely show. I have no idea how it compares to the book and this time I don't care. I simple don't have the time or energy to read all the things I'd like to at this time of my life. It was a lovely, strong telling. Symbolically intense. Rochester was not as ugly as he is suggested to be although he was transformed by Love and infinitely more appealing as the story moved along.
I'm not sorry I missed it in High School. I would have missed how important it was to the heroine to be good, honest, chaste. Now I only wonder that any young person can be. It's such a difficult task now. It was definitely not the silly romantic story some may say it is, but it was also certainly accessible. It did not seem to me that it would be difficult to understand in written word.
How did I miss it in High School? I had an amazing teacher for senior year who allowed us a great say in what we read. I had first picked a Russian novel after having read a Novelette by Tolstoy in our anthology. I became absolutely hooked. I've read Brothers Karamotzov 3 times, also love Crime and Punishment. I never did like Anna Karenina but the beauty of the Russian plains, the heartache of the characters truly drew me in to the story.
Next up will be a series of the stories of Jane Austin and a biography of her that I am really looking forward to seeing.

Wednesday, January 2, 2008